The bf and I hardly ever fight now. It's not because we're perfect but because we've learned to understand each other better. He knows when I'm mad at something and I know when he's irritated. Instead of talking, we end up keeping quiet. And thus, there is no trouble. We only talk when the emotion has passed.
During our trip, the bf and I fought. I was mad at him because he lied to me. I had asked him a question about doing something I thought he did but he lied straight-faced and denied it. I always have a feeling when he isn't telling the truth but I just kept quiet. I wanted to be sure before I confronted him. Unfortunately, the other vehicle had internal trouble. We had to stop in the expressway to figure it out. The only good thing about it is that the other driver was a mechanic as well. He only needed a few tools to fix it but we didn't have it. The bf needed to go and buy what was needed. I was staying in the car the whole time and when he talked to me, he saw that I wasn't talking anymore and I was glaring at him.
For the bf, the best defense is offense. I was still quiet and he was the one getting all worked up. He said that was all in my mind and I wasn't helping with the present problem. I was too selfish to be thinking about that etc, etc, etc. Still I didn't answer. He was grumbling the whole time and was doubly irritated by the traffic. It was literally going at a snail's pace and he had no idea where to buy the stuff. He stopped at a bike store for directions and we proceeded. But we couldn't go very far since the traffic flowed a few feet at a time only. He asked me to drive and he would walk. So he went down and walked. After 10 meters, the traffic opened up but I didn't stop for him. I went on ahead for about 100 meters until he called me on the cellphone. He was shouting because I left him to walk instead of stopping. Hahahahaha! I said you told me to drive and I did. I waited for him and he drove again. But after about 200 meters, he went down again. He finally flagged down a tricycle that took him somewhere. I took over, drove and found a parking space and waited for him to return. I was really glad I let the bf walk that distance. It was sweet revenge!
On the way back, he had calmed down considerably. I was talking to him already but only in short sentences. We didn't talk about the fight until the next morning. He said he dreamt of his mother and I said I dreamt about leaving you. I didn't really but it was the perfect opening. There we discussed my reason for being angry and he apologized. I told him I cannot control what you do and I do not intend to anyway. All I ask is you tell me the truth. Don't lie to me unless you know I will not be able to verify it. If there is one thing I hate, it's liars. I know lies are necessary sometimes but not when it comes to me and our relationship and I told him that.
After that talk, the bf complained that he was hungry.
For the bf, the best defense is offense. I was still quiet and he was the one getting all worked up. He said that was all in my mind and I wasn't helping with the present problem. I was too selfish to be thinking about that etc, etc, etc. Still I didn't answer. He was grumbling the whole time and was doubly irritated by the traffic. It was literally going at a snail's pace and he had no idea where to buy the stuff. He stopped at a bike store for directions and we proceeded. But we couldn't go very far since the traffic flowed a few feet at a time only. He asked me to drive and he would walk. So he went down and walked. After 10 meters, the traffic opened up but I didn't stop for him. I went on ahead for about 100 meters until he called me on the cellphone. He was shouting because I left him to walk instead of stopping. Hahahahaha! I said you told me to drive and I did. I waited for him and he drove again. But after about 200 meters, he went down again. He finally flagged down a tricycle that took him somewhere. I took over, drove and found a parking space and waited for him to return. I was really glad I let the bf walk that distance. It was sweet revenge!
On the way back, he had calmed down considerably. I was talking to him already but only in short sentences. We didn't talk about the fight until the next morning. He said he dreamt of his mother and I said I dreamt about leaving you. I didn't really but it was the perfect opening. There we discussed my reason for being angry and he apologized. I told him I cannot control what you do and I do not intend to anyway. All I ask is you tell me the truth. Don't lie to me unless you know I will not be able to verify it. If there is one thing I hate, it's liars. I know lies are necessary sometimes but not when it comes to me and our relationship and I told him that.
After that talk, the bf complained that he was hungry.
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