i am not exactly the best "friend" in the world. i don't bother myself with much of the trivial details of their lives, nor do i burden them with mine. i am happy to be with them if time permits but i do not always keep in touch. i reply to texts or emails but i do not do it first. my friends all know i am always out of the loop and sometimes i don't try to keep up anymore.
but i am saddened by one news i heard last night. my friend who is pregnant right now was apprently abandoned by her husband. maybe abandonment is too strong but that is how i perceive it. he left december 22 to work abroad-without telling her! he just left without a word, no goodbye or warning whatsover. she called him at his place of work because she was ready to come home from her own office. she was told he resigned already. when she got home, she discovered all his clothes were gone. ouch! they have been having problems because the husband has another woman. this woman is working overseas. apparently, she is the stepping stone he used so he could get work in that particular country. she came home last october and they left together this december.
my friend was expecting him to leave. she knew he was still carrying on with the woman even if he had gone home with them. i, however, had no idea. when i learned she was expecting, i thought they had settled everything between them. in fact, she was the one who asked me once if i was okay. i told her i was always okay and she should take care of herself. to be honest, i got peeved when she told me she was pregnant. i was tired of her being a martyr and i knew that her being with child means she will go back to him yet again and he will continually break her heart. boy, was i right! it wasn't a merry christmas for her at all. no wonder she said she needed her friends. i cannot imagine the pain she is going through right now. her husband is a first class piece of crap that should not be allowed to live. luckily, she is a strong person and she will get through this with her head held high. we jokingly told her we are willing to offer her all kinds of help-except for financial help, that is.
but i am saddened by one news i heard last night. my friend who is pregnant right now was apprently abandoned by her husband. maybe abandonment is too strong but that is how i perceive it. he left december 22 to work abroad-without telling her! he just left without a word, no goodbye or warning whatsover. she called him at his place of work because she was ready to come home from her own office. she was told he resigned already. when she got home, she discovered all his clothes were gone. ouch! they have been having problems because the husband has another woman. this woman is working overseas. apparently, she is the stepping stone he used so he could get work in that particular country. she came home last october and they left together this december.
my friend was expecting him to leave. she knew he was still carrying on with the woman even if he had gone home with them. i, however, had no idea. when i learned she was expecting, i thought they had settled everything between them. in fact, she was the one who asked me once if i was okay. i told her i was always okay and she should take care of herself. to be honest, i got peeved when she told me she was pregnant. i was tired of her being a martyr and i knew that her being with child means she will go back to him yet again and he will continually break her heart. boy, was i right! it wasn't a merry christmas for her at all. no wonder she said she needed her friends. i cannot imagine the pain she is going through right now. her husband is a first class piece of crap that should not be allowed to live. luckily, she is a strong person and she will get through this with her head held high. we jokingly told her we are willing to offer her all kinds of help-except for financial help, that is.
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